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How do I find the right people to connect with in a
room full of people?
Do your homework ahead of the event to find out “who is who
in the zoo”. Use the trial and error method by speaking to a
few people. Ask questions and ask for assistance, because
more often than not the person you are speaking to will know
of someone you hope to connect with.
Any tips for overcoming nervous jitters?
We all get nervous when walking into a room of people we
don’t know. Try to go with someone who also has the intention
of networking. Alternatively, attend a social event where you
may feel more comfortable. If you’re alone, count to 10 to
steady yourself, and find someone who looks friendly. And
remember: everyone in the room is in the same boat as you.
What’s the best way to start or end a conversation?
Simply introduce yourself, “Hi, my name is Shikha. Are you
enjoying the evening?” If you have attended a session where
there is a speaker, make a comment about the session. If
you’re attending a session involving a particular group or
industry, be abreast of the hot topics and challenges that the
community may be facing, so you can ask relevant questions
and make appropriate comments.
To remove yourself, simply excuse yourself politely. For
example, mention that you need to get back to the people
you came with, or that you need to find someone in particular
– even that you’re here to network so you will continue to
keep moving. Another suggestion is to connect the person or
people you are having a conversation with to someone else.
Where to network
For women:
Singapore Business and Professional Women Association
| sbpwa.org.sg
Athena Network | theathenanetwork.com.sg
PrimeTime | primetime.org.sg
Business chambers, for example:
American Chamber of Commerce | amcham.org.sg
British Chamber of Commerce | britcham.org.sg
Australian Chamber of Commerce | austcham.org.sg
European Chamber of Commerce | eurocham.org.sg
Social, sporting and country associations, for example:
Australian & New Zealand Association | anza.org.sg
American Association of Singapore | aasingapore.com
What are your tips for networking via online
sites such as LinkedIn (without appearing
like a stalker!)?
1. Always be courteous. For example, when
connecting with people, ask for permission and
have a valid reason – for example, “We met at
the networking event last week and learnt that we
attended the same university.”
2. Maintain a presence, be active and log on regularly.
Remember to continue to connect with people after
the initial interaction.
3. Post meaningful information and comments
that demonstrate your knowledge and area of
expertise. This is particularly important in a forum
like LinkedIn. Be mindful, too, of what you post on
social forums – use them to work towards building
your credibility and professionalism.
Any do’s and don’ts in a group mingling
situation?
• Make sure you facilitate the introductions for the
group, so everyone knows each other. This also
helps people to remember names.
• Be inclusive. Don’t obviously leave people out.
• Give others the opportunity to speak. Be respectful.
• Don’t only talk about yourself. Ask questions.
• Don’t drink too much.